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Saturday, January 2, 2010
Pass the schedule-- please!
During the holidays my mom gave me a 2010 calendar. I honestly preferred that than anything else.
It helps to physically write events down from pen to paper rather than typing them out on a computer or phone--sometimes.
For those who know me, being simple in thought or practice does not work for me. I remember when I did a documentary in Brooklyn by Dennis Bellone, I was told-- "You're that type of woman who just has to do something. He went on to advise me that I should just wake-up without anything to do.
Translation--- Meditate do that, or just people watch one day at the park. My bestie told me about "people watching."
Perhaps he is right--- but for now-- I am going to say, " Pass the schedule please." I am 23 and there are so many things I am yet to do. There are so many heights I am yet to climb and there are so many unmentionables I am yet to bury deep within my heart.
"AE QUOTE: Be the Picasso of your portrait called, Life. Let each stroke be strong and confident. In the end your masterpiece will be extraordinary. -EBOKOSIA"
The New Year is almost here! There is something so refreshing in starting off with a New Year, I think for everyone. We can all claim that a lot of pivotal moments have occurred.
The only resolution I would possible make ( I try not to really make any-- for the start of a new year) is to live my best life possible. Everyday is a resolution to be made not just because we're beginning a 'new year.' I find that if you just say, "I wish to strive to be a better person than the woman who I was yesterday," all your goals will seemingly be easier to attain. I am in constant battle with that woman.
I've been running high on passion lately. It has pushed me into the hours of the night when I physically could not go on anymore. My work ethic has been crazy, I am determined to work harder to see the results that I dreamed about.
AE QUOTE: Desirable results are only partnered with desirable efforts. Expect what you CHOOSE to give.-♥ EBOKOSIA
I have been enjoying family and friends these past few weeks-- I am in the holiday spirit. I love the warmth of people. I especially <3 when it's the people you care about most. I can sun bathe in that type of warmth-- the love of family and close friends.
The Gem project, my non-profit--- is moving UP UP UP. I finally renovated the website! Check it out over (here). I've been working on it so much lately because I am putting a new team together and changing how I manage things. I am elated with everything that it has done in the past and I look forward to the future!
Peep the new logo:
I foresee collegiate and high school chapters being done throughout this great nation in the future. I've placed forms on the website for that. I had a vision that the teachings and practices of The Gem Project as an organization would just ramify out from state to state-- and it will happen. I would be lying if I said I was not 100% sure. I think my dreams into reality, with the assistance of action of course ;). It has never failed me. I have never failed myself. Only others have failed me.
Peep my new logo for this site : AE EMPIRE: Amanda Ebokosia.com--
I don't think there is a particular age where you just finally "get" it, the answers to life's questions. During my sophomore year of college I had a conversation with a room-mate who I lived with during the summer term.
She explained to me that you'll still get those "I thought I got it, whoa -- never doing that again" days no matter if you're 19,25,30, 60 years of age &--- beyond.
It's funny. I suppose that's what makes life so interesting. Once you feel you've solved an answer, a new one is presented or an old one is reintroduced.
AE QUOTE: When you believe you're at the cusp of life's bountiful treasures of answers you find yourself awestruck and pensive on seemingly "new" issues, only to find that it's a dull old one.
I had my moment again. I'll admit, "I still have a lot to learn and more "growing" up to do." There are so many things that have been presented to me these past few days & weeks, I will take it all with stride. In due time they will all reveal themselves.
Yesterday I baked some holidays treats. I've been getting real fond of baking & cooking as I've been marking my territory in my kitchen.
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Chocolate chipmint cookies--- The scents warm up my quaint apartment, the second place I call home. There's a competition of scents, I've grown addicted to candles and I especially love the aroma of apple cinnamon sticks that mine gives off.
Yesterday felt like Spring, well close to it anyway. If only all days in December would be equally as beautiful! I can only dream, hope, and pray. I'm busy with several things today. One of them being, assisting in this production event for a not-for-profit. It should be a lot of fun. I sent out 68 reminder invites yesterday, so we will see. I'll see if I can sneak in some video footage.
I'll be busy.
Here are a few select snaps from the shoot, I know I promised full but I think it will be best that I release a little at a time.
Designer Casey Russell of Claude Russell designed the shoot. Photographer: Rollei
My fitness blog has been updated today, I'm ending this week #4 with 114 miles ran since I started running in November.
I suppose being busy has its perks? Check list of issues equates to blessings
I suppose being busy has its perks? Yes it does. I am sitting here with issues that others may glance at as being blessings. I suppose I should take my issues as blessings and react to them as such, praise and give thanks.
God is good.
My issues (blessings in disguise):
booking a trip to see my lovely family
figuring out if I should take a proposal to go to London early spring-- for a shoot!
wondering if I should paint this wall-- w/o knowing if I'll be accepted to go to a medical school out of state, if God plans it that way-- If I get accepted this cycle-- let us pray.
figuring out an article to write for this company about relationships-- it's been 7 days since my last one! This is how I make some money as a writer, besides this website
Wondering when I'll upload all my work for The Gem Project and get things back up to my "order" of business for 2010
following up for a possible researcher position for interview no.3 I hope, for brain cancer research--- my life's dream, well besides being a neurologist one day
Planning to meet new and old friends before the break of 2010
Being a better Christian than I was yesterday, you shall never rob me of mistakes--- I will make plenty-- I'll just try to do the "right" thing
I want to try to be the best in all that I do. Honestly, I am quite disappointed sometimes-- I am an odd sort off perfectionist, my mind is a circus yet I want order in my surroundings. Funny.
Life is a muffin-- I just can't seem to taste it-- I've found myself walking through it with a cold. I fear it has robbed me of my senses to indulge in the satisfaction of that muffin. A cold.
I love life. I get bogged down with it all, but I CAN'T seem to shake off being busy. I suppose I won't even try, I was born this way--- I can imagine when everything is said and done---- I'd leave this world shaking in my bones.
Be powerful always my love.
AE QUOTE: Key to Power: Being able to utilize and master all pertinent outlets for your mission-- don't be limited to just one.
The heart to heart --Mom-Family-The De Pintos-Lianna-Erin-Sorie-Bukie-Chandra-Dayna-Carm
I love my family and I love my friends. Yesterday, I had a heart to heart moment with my mother over the phone. She has to be the busiest woman I know. I was sad sometimes as a child, seeing my mother was always busy raising us 3 kids on her own---this took out of our playtime, keep in mind this was a child's thought. I'm just reflecting here, I would not change it for the world . According to last night, she wouldn't either.
My mom is the reason why I am the person who I am today. If that makes sense, she is the reason why I strive to be a better person each day. I am so blessed to have what I feel is the best role-model for me. I couldn't ask for anyone else because no one is as great to me in my eyes.
My comfort from being many miles away is the fact that I am my mother's daughter. Those words are more valuable than any man made object or feeling evoked on this earth. The feelings, the love, the respect--- is far greater than I. I suppose my love is great-- My family is small so my mom and my brothers, and my uncles & aunts on her side is virtually all I have.
We are a God fearing family. God has always been the captain as we navigated through the seas of issues, issues, and more issues. God has worked miracles and transformed us all for the better. Just to digress slightly, one of the greatest experiences I've witnessed in college at Rutgers University-- was experiencing other cultures besides my own. This also came with witnessing and respecting other person's religious beliefs are lack of.
I appreciate everything in life, just in my book God has been my Captain. My brothers are growing before my eyes, as being handsome strong intelligent young men of society. I am a very proud sister. I can't believe how my brother Brian is so mature for his age. He helps a great deal with my youngest brother, Michael. He is a character in his own way. I love his smile and his big incisors-- well two front teeth.
I just find myself wishing Christmas was here so I can be with my family. I'll be enjoying my Thanksgiving with friends this year- My Italian Family. I love the De Pintos, I really do. I have not had a friend so pure as Lianna, which is one of the many reasons why she is my best friend. She truly has my best interests at heart, as I do her as well. I also appreciate and love my close friend Erin-- she is bright and unique. We are very much alike in a lot of ways. She has such a great artistic flair to her-- I find that this is a rare quality to share with someone who is, like myself, in route in becoming a health professional. It is a rare quality indeed.
Sorie-- how can I forget him? He's A true soul-mate. He's my best friend as well. I can't believe he has been in my life since age 19. Whoa. I Skyped him the other day-- that was kool. He is the reason why I knew about the brain cancer clinical researcher position. He is always looking out for me-- even when I say, "Back Off." Two interviews later and all. I have such great friends.
Carmelys is a sweetheart and a loyal friend as well. I often see her as a younger or the younger sister I've never had.There are other friends who I hold dear to me. I just can't fit everyone in this post. I only mentioned those who have been in constant contact with me this past year or who I've got real close too.
I can go on to write about my childhood- adolescent pals Bukie, Chandra, & Dayna. Words alone can't describe. You all are people who I see myself growing old with.
To sum everything up, I guess you can say I am in love with my mother, family,and friends. I am very much in love with them. I sort of understand it when Angelina Jolie said, " I am so in love with my brother right now." It's a familial/platonic love rest assured it's not romantic love, well maybe for my soul-mate it is.
Go Out and Kiss Someone, You know you Want to! Happy Thanksgiving.
'Tis the day to be thankful, and so are the many years to follow
In life whether you accumulate a lot of obvious blessings or you're in the midst of a monumental trial -- waiting patiently for that solution, you must always remember to be thankful. I find it necessary to be especially thankful for when I'm in situations that are not ideal. Every obstacle that we go through in life prepares us to be stronger and should be greeted and welcomed, for every obstacle transforms us into a better person. Thanksgiving is near and I can't seem to count off a list of all the things that I am thankful for, simply too many. ..
Let's just start off by being thankful for today. When I wake-up each morning, I smile for all the possibilities that can occur andjust having that 'chance' of making them happen. I did not have to wake-up today, but I did. I consider it a blessing, a blessing that shouldn't be taken for granted.
I began my morning like most mornings, a bowl of cereal and a glass of O.J-- however, today was different.
Video Feature: Eight seconds of footage from when I just finished my interview in New York,NY and found that Bryant Park opened their "Pond", a skating rink.
I was told by the 2nd best cancer center in the nation and the largest--oldest in the world, that I will begin my second interview, November 23, 2009. "....just having that 'chance' of making it happen." Life is a bundle of dreams-- and I am living out mine. I started my day half past 6 in the morning, I slept late from the night before. I was energetic and ready to prove that I was the best candidate for the position-- I did not fail.
I went in-- that interview and answered questions to the best of my knowledge, flawlessly. I gave it my absolute best, consider it a moment to be thankful for. In these times there are always moments to be thankful for especially in this dire economy. It takes hard times- difficult situations- to reflect at what matters most and appreciate the simplest thing.
Today I appreciated smiles. I met them all over! I met smiles on the train to New York and smiles on the sidewalks, over the phone, and most importantly, my heart. I smiled in my heart.
When my family members or friends ask,"What do you want for Christmas or Thanksgiving?", I'll say the same thing from last year--- nothing. I am so blessed, I've been blessed since I was born. Being blessed does not have to mean-- monetary things-- goodness no. I grew up from humble beginnings and I did not always 'have it all.' The funny thing is--- I did not know I never had much at all-- until others commented.
Life is a bowl of cereal, eat it up and be thankful.
This morning I sat in my swivel chair and ate my breakfast in a trance-- I was taking a stroll down memory lane. I suddenly became nostalgic and envisioned all of my favorite games, shows, and fashion trends that I admired as a child. These were the shows that were born in the 80s era, yes-- the shows that only 80s babies could appreciate. These shows, games, and fashion trends spilled over to the early nineties --- where all the 80s babies gladly indulged.
They don't make TV like that ....
They don't make music like that.....
They don't make fashion like that anymore...
The 80s era was timeless.
Remember the following shows: Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Transformers, Ghostbusters, Mario bros, Mr. T, Inspector Gadget, Flinestone Kids, Duck Tales, and the list goes on and on..
I bet I sparked a memory, perhaps you were Leonardo the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle for Halloween? Was I the only one who had a crush on a cartoon and wanted my own pet turtles as a Christmas gift? I don't think so.
Feat: Fanny Pack, the dance group-- of the TV SHOW: America's Best Dance Crew
The fashion itself made a statement, with its vibrant colors and fitted jeans with loose tops! It still remains to be the decade that continues to reinvent itself through the current times. The 80s era is the one decade that keeps coming back every year, it's that itch you just can't seem to scratch.
The double shot expresso---Dear liquid legal crack,
E x p r e s s o of my life
The little engine that could, that's me! I run on my own natural energy and usually don't rely on anything to keep me going throughout the day. As I get older, it get's harder. I'm sure many of you can relate. When you're 20 something and beyond, the world suddenly opens up with its wealth of responsibilities to bestow on you. It may leave you in the middle of the day asking for a "pick me up." I have friends who need that double shot of espresso. The magical shot that rejuvenates and makes them feel alive.
What do you use as alternatives ?-- besides the liquid legal crack, I like to call coffee and the like. I vehemently believe that what you consume affects your energy as well as other things. I guess you can say I take to heart that saying which goes, "You are what you eat." I've made an addendum to that and said the following:
You're who you surround yourself with: Your often share common interests with your company. Surround yourself with slackers, there's a great chance that you'll be/or are one too!
You're what you wear: What you wear does influence your mood. I had my 'crappy' days and you know what? I dressed that way too. This may not hold true for everyone. However, I don't seem to feel out of place when I'm indeed stellar or at my best.
You're what you allow: You allow yourself to be treated badly, you'll always be treated badly--and feel bad too! If you allow yourself to be treated with respect, you'll command the respect you deserve effortlessly!
I've been letting you all into my first hours of what I do when I first wake-up, which is running--Each day I document my daily morning exercise routines over (here). This has been my alternative to that liquid legal crack--we call coffee. Truthfully, I really don't drink coffee because I don't like the way it stains teeth.. Yes-- that's my reason. I also have similar reasons as to why I never drank or smoke, very very superficial reasons-- I know.
Keep in mind, the physiological benefits out weigh the superficial ones. What are the alternatives that you've used to get you off that liquid crack addiction? Or are you an addict who is still mesmerized by that liquid legal crack? Please confess-- you are NOT alone.
I had an accident this morning while running my 6 mi of the day. I am still in pain, more information has been recorded over at sugar(here). I am happy that I have ran 56 miles since last Monday. I shall celebrate someday, I just don't know how yet. Tomorrow is my last day of the week to run-- weekends my legs get REST. My best recorded time since last Monday has been 50min/6miles.
This exercise comes with an incentive =) I have booked an upcoming photo shoot. The photographer who is shooting me wants me to style the concept. I have a few ideas. I want to go for a rough edgy look/corporate look/ & commercial --sigh-- I don't know!
Need help much? Let's all not even start on my cupcake addiction. Yes,CRUMBS-- Has anyone been there?
At a time where playful tugs became love taps-- I transformed into an innovator
<< Image: A very young Amanda A. Ebokosia
If I could sit back and step outside the box of my life, it would most likely parallel a Lifetime series. I'm certain that I am not the only one, who would describe their life in this way. Life is so precious-- I was so fortunate to see this as a young ten year-old gal, who was clad with a purple trench coat that had dazzling pink buttons. "This" 10 year-old gal was captivated by the world around her-- inquisitive much? Yes. "This" 10 year-old gal would climb hills and fill her red lunch box with ants and millipedes--- and run home and turn into a scientist for the day. "This" 10 year-old gal would lay on her back on the pavement outside of her school backyard to watch the beautiful cloud formations in the sky. "This" 10 year-old gal was I.
I dreamed without limitations then-- as I do so now.
What did I see in these cloud formations? rabbits, houses, beaches, my family, & everything I ever desired.
I saw it all, my visions of life. I had tunnel vision. This was a vision that most girls my age were not quite picking up on. Their body's were changing-- and they were noticing guys. I wasn't really interesting in such things then.
Well, what does this have to do with today? Everything.
Life was just one big puzzle back then. I don't think life will ever stop being a puzzle quite frankly. There was only one thing that I was sure of. It was that I should remain focused in what interested me, despite what others were doing--even if I was not considered to be in the norm. Who is normal anyway?
Now I'm reflecting on a conversation that I had with a good friend of mine, who was dismayed with the negative energy she was receiving with her newly acclaimed success. I started referencing the 48 Laws of Power, which has an interesting passage about friendship & business. In summation, we discussed how the higher an individual climbs up the pyramid of success-- the less persons they would have to befriend in the process.
A person can have several associates but it's highly unlikely that a they would become friends--close friends with each one. In fact, I discussed research findings about the complications of femaleplatonic relationshipsover (here).
We concluded several things in this conversation, here are the results:
Don't take negative energy personal from associates or people who you thought were your friends. Reason: All the energy you're spending time worrying about what they are saying, can be harnessed to fuel you or your projects.
Negative energy comes from within. It is toxic when you hear it. The person releasing it is also toxic. Therefore, be upset for only one thing-- that this person is not happy with their own current situation-- it has nothing really to do with you. Reason: Negative energy is like a cancer-- if it spreads it captures-- you must win the battle.
People will do wrong by you, there is no secret to this-- we are all human. Don't take it personally -- focus and flip the switch that turns that tunnel vision on.Reason: When you focus and pay attention to what matters most, you'll attain your goals a lot faster. Don't waste precious time.
Happy hearts breed happier people-- Let's live happily by our own terms!
Below Image: Eons ago 1st photo shoot
Let's all just live happily by our own terms. Yesterday, I found myself in a perplexing situation-- in the end, I had to say to myself, " Amanda what do YOU want?" In life we sometimes tend to sacrifice our own happiness for the sake of others-- due to the fear that we may offend.
Don't get me wrong, it is important to be considerate of others. This is not a free pass card on being entirely selfish.
However, feeling that you have to do something in order to be "right" with others does not work. I'm fortunate to have wonderful close friends around me, who understand my motives and won't allow me to feel this way with them. This *bond* is only developed with time. What happens when you're faced with a situation where you don't necessarily want to do something, but you're torn because you may offend someone? It's quite obvious, you address the issue in a mature fashion with the utmost respect. I don't believe in the saying, " You have to earn my respect." I believe in giving everyone their own respect, after all we are all pupils in this thing called life. It shows you're a person of class and dignity. Don't ever lose your composure, and address situations with anger and disregard for feelings-- always try to maintain your own power for the situation at hand.
At this point you can see if it's your way or the highway vs. settling to find a compromise. Happy hearts breed happier people. You will be more at ease this way, by letting loose of the anxiety of offending someone else.
I'll first start off by saying this week has been grand. I pushed myself to my own limits, by waking up each morning and running 6 miles! Yes, this equates to running 30 miles as of this Friday. I made a promise to myself to NOT run on weekends. I've been updating my fitness blog over(here).
A lot of amazing things are going to be happening within the next couple days. Stay tuned ! Remember,JUST SMILESmiling is the best antidote to heal any pain.It's life's homemade remedy, sent to you in a pretty yellow box. Just figure out what your yellow boxmay be.
P.s check out my cooking skills (I'm sending you a virtual plate):
PART:I My time at MISS NJ USA 2010 Pageant & Info about the LFM Series Film: "Model Walk" - airs for the rest of the season
I am going to discuss an event that occurred several days ago. I'm also taking the time to talk about one of the films I had the honor of being featured in earlier this summer.
First I would like to say, "I really should be checking my PO BOX a lot more". I originally bought a PO BOX to separate business mail from my personal mail, but when your PO BOX is in a whole other town, you're less likely to check it as often as you should. Well, shortly before my trip to Alaska I received a letter from Donald Trump. I am sure several young women know what I am talking about. It was a letter to apply to hopefully participate in this year's Miss New Jersey USA 2010 Pageant! This must have been the second time in my entire lifetime that I received such a notice.
The first time was during my freshman year of college when I was pretty much engrossed in my pre-medical classes, I could not find the time to raise sponsorship and get involved in it. Now this time around I was receiving this notice as a college graduate who has already completed her Medical School applications and was hungry for some excitement. I whispered to myself my famous words, "Why NOT?". I could write a novel as to why I wanted to participate in this pageant. It goes far beyond the scope of being just a "beauty pageant". There is beauty beyond the physical layers of what we see. Let me explain.
It is not my job to find out why many don't understand my motives, place, or "the big picture" of all things that I wish to do, see, and conquer. It is my job in becoming the woman who I desired to be at 8, 18, and now 23. The woman who I envisioned to become: powerful, bright, worldly, & articulate. It is my JOB to at least attempt to partake in activities that would foster growth and help me blossom into that woman. I saw it with this pageant.
Do you know what it's like to campaign in less than a few weeks for over $1k, after coming from a trip like Alaska?
It's tough. There are a few barriers that need to be broken for one. You have to let go of all insecurities you may have. The strongest women have them too, this I know for sure. You have to believe you deserve it! You must walk, breathe, talk as if you do. Raising sponsorship is garnering support and believers in everything that you do! I decided to try my best to avoid family & friends for monetary donations. I raised the bulk of it through small businesses.
It changed me.
I don't know what it was really. It could have been going to that famous Thai spot that I often frequented, the doctor offices I often passed, or riding up to cities I rarely visited but soon found hidden treasures.
It changed me.
I suppose what changed me most was needing to raise my last stick of $300 the day before the competition. I called a best friend in a panic. I believe I said to her ," I think I just found my own "Audacity of Hope" moment". Before I get "the eye brow raiser", I will explain it with a question.
Have you ever found yourself in a pretty hopeless situation? While the only thing that is fueling you is your desire to be apart of something so great that you could almost taste it? Well, that's all I felt during the evening on the 15th ( the day before the pageant). I felt that way in my "let's bring it ensemble" 4 inch heels and a knee length gray pleated dress by Calvin Klein's --- in the midst of terenchal rain. YES. It was raining DOGS and ELEPHANTS that night. I just about visited 3 towns in New Jersey and spent about 4 hours campaigning to just come up short with 300 left.
What happened? I regrouped. That's what happened. I repositioned my thoughts and approach. Once I did that I was able to make the phone call.
"Hello?"
Yes, Pageant Headquarters..
"This is Amanda, and I suppose I will be able to make it. Just raised the last bit"
Well, it was something along those lines.
The best thing that I did get from this situation besides meeting amazing people, was a new outlook. I've always knew what it was like to witness compassion directly with my not-for-profit and the funds we helped raised for organizations such as American Cancer Society & Autism Speaks.
It was "refreshing" to see it all again, it was rewarding to find total strangers believe in me and support me in attempting to have my own opportunity.
In the end, it was all about opportunity and a chance--- to live out a dream.
Congrats Cheona Greene: Miss New Jersey USA 2010
I leave you with a short clip. Also, check the link below to READ MORE about a film which aired today and I think runs every other Monday for this season--which I am featured in.
PS:The title for this entry was a phrase from our opening number song by Black Eyed Peas "I Gotta Feeling"
What's bankable? Young Investors-The search for financial fitness--Penny Wise::Pound Foolish
“Penny Wise Pound Foolish”
My mother’s continuous chanting of the phrase, “Penny wise, pound foolish” as a child, reintroduced itself in memory as I spoke to an elderly woman in my neighborhood this afternoon. She recently turned 85 and just retired at age 83. As we spoke it became clear that she retired at that age by choice. I smile at the thought that she spoke with so much joy and youthful vigor, while expressing her weekly need to service her community 5 days a week. She did so by volunteering at our local hospital and offering her services at countless not-for-profit organizations as as a member.
Looking into her eyes I saw my own, it was just a few decades or so ahead, six decades to be exact. I’ve always had the desire to be aware of my financial needs and wants. My mother always talks about two extremes--business & medicine. Mostly about her work as a Physician and business because she herself owns her own corporation. I had beat her to owning a corporation first !
Well, she always used to chorus a popular phrase to me as a child and that was, "Penny wise, Pound Foolish". I understood the value of the penny before I knew the value of a dollar. I grew up from humble beginnings and those "brownies" are what opened my first bank account. I collected them under sofas, shoes, pavements, you name it! . My first account statement had a balance of 76.00 USD and I owe it to all the pennies I collected at age 10. I will never forget what it was like carrying my big container of pennies to our local bank in Philadelphia---so classic.
Reaching financial fitness is knowing the value of a penny and not necessarily a dollar. A dire economy may be the best time to understand your personal wealth,market, and need for financial growth
I have been alright with a FICO of 736 but it could always be better, and it changes from time to time. I am venturing off in a new phase in my life.It is the same phase that my girl pals are going through--ADULT LIFE. We are all 20 somethings and I have to say that I have a great group of friends who aim to become financially secure. The older woman who I met retired at 83, which is not the typical age for one to retire these days. However, everyone's goals are different.
My goal is to learn a great deal about investing in my future to ensure that my parents,brothers,future children,& perhaps husband are all financially secure and fit. That only comes with learning the market and understanding the basics of investing and what it all has to offer. I KNOW, I KNOW, I KNOW-- The economy is pretty shaky and it leaves a bad aftertaste in the mouths of all recent college graduates to even think about the word, Investment. Truth be told it is the best time to learn!
There is a reason why the "ideal" investment porfolio for a retiree has 50% of assets being secured in stocks
Amongst all the multicolored eggs you have from stocks,bonds,alternative investments,& CASH vechile--stocks have the highest long term growth. This calculation is currently having several financial advisers scratching their heads-- because it has left many clients saddened due to the economic crash. However, a recession will not last forever. People should not give up entirely on stocks. Many young investors are not and I am certain with more research I will be apart of these great group of people.
According to a recent article by Latoya Smith of Black Enterprise magazine, "The Young and The Restless",Smith has found that over 52% of young investors are trusting that the market will start to pick up a little towards the end of the year. We are the group who see the bargains in shares and wish to capitalize on them because we won't see retirement for another forty or so years--according to smith. For Example: TAKE GOOGLE:
GOOGLE in 2004 -- share -- 100USD
GOOGLE in 2007 -- share -- 715USD
GOOGLE recently -- share -- 356USD
Who banked fast? A young investor! Like most young investors he is confident that the companies that they invest in will bounce back. Smith spoke of Erika Smith, a young 20 something who is investing in cheap energy stocks and is equally confident because of the fact that the Obama Administration has placed a lot of focus on "green" energy. Start investing or learning the value of a penny before a dollar! Investing starts first with developing a good budget plan and having a savings account. It also starts with knowing the value of a penny before a dollar!
Please don't be penny wise-pound foolish:)
My favorite magazines that I own are:
The Network Journal, Entrepreneur,Black Enterprise, my mom's old JAMA :),Essence, and now SMART MONEY!
If you need any free websites that can help you further, email me at: model@amandaebokosia.com
One lesson I've learned growing up is that friends come as quickly as they go. True friends-real friends are the ones who stick around.
They're the ones who understand you before you give an explanation about an issue.
They're the ones who lift you up at your darkest moments, and are the ones who make you desire to become a better person.
The majority of my adult life I've lived with a free heart. A heart which greeted pain as well as happiness with the same welcoming smile. I opened new friendship and rekindled old friendship without a trace of cynicism. As I mature I find that friendships are what you make them to be. My discovery is that friendship is only alive if the two persons were benefiting from the relationship. Friendship is real. It is beautiful and the one fruitful thing that truly sustains life here on Earth.
"Humans are social creatures.If we all lived in isolation, I highly doubt that we would grow into the magnificent masterpieces we sought out from birth to become. Rekindle your friendships"
Recently in life, I have become a skeptic with certain friendships I had formed. This is partly true because I met an overwhelming series of disappointments. The type of disappointments that left you distraught while thinking to yourself, " I can't believe he or she did this? ". I've learned not to take it by heart. I've also learned to not hold it against anyone--we are all human. However, I have the ability to edit& delete people in and out my life, in order to live happily. This is a philosophy I have maintained and won't give up. By doing so I've made room for more positive relationships. With this newly adopted philosophy my friends and family grew considerably.
I am lucky to have at least one close true friend. I have a handful to be exact- one hand 1,2,3,4.. not including family. There is only one friend who I can completely let my guard down. I've known Lianna since my freshman year of undergraduate school. We got close within the span of two years I would say, when we lived together at our alma mater.
People need friends who make them want to reach for the stars!---and beyond
She is everything I would look for in the ideal friend. I trust her-
I remember writing the following earlier today: "Let's be butterflies and transform into a being that "others" deemed impossible --AT FIRST! Let's all be GREAT & mature into the "Monarchs" we were destined to become!"
This year has been all about self transformation by acquiring knowledge not just from books, but by conversing with different people.
Last Sunday, was one of the most beautiful Sundays I've ever experienced. There are several moments in my life where I have a conviction that things just fit like pieces to a puzzle. Looking back, I wanted to often shout:" Where is the director of my life". I already know the answer to that, my director is GOD. Although, I am very into my own faith but I do love to learn about others. I had always said that I wished I took a theology course in college. It simply never happened. Well, that is what books are for right? I remember a friend of mine giving me the following book:
The Faith Club|By:Ranya Idliby
A Muslim, A Chistian, A Jew ---Three Woman Search for Understanding
The Faith Club is a novel that explores the lives of three inspirational ladies and their faiths. It is a must have if you wish to seek better understanding among people as a whole and their faiths. Let me back track---Last Sunday, was one of the most beautiful Sundays I've ever experienced. I was on my way from the Montclair/Belleville area to a church in Newark,NJ-- Why the commute you ask? I've grown accustomed to attending my church in Newark since I had lived there during my under-graduate years.
Last Sunday, I was running late but that did not hinder me. I made a promise that I would go so I was determined to fulfill it. I decided to just attend one of the many churches in my area. As I started to walk down a side walk I met her--Miss Ruth, an elderly woman sitting by a bench smiling to herself. I approached her smiling back and asked her if she knew if the Presbyterian church at the corner had an afternoon service. She responded back, " I know nothing of that church- I only go to Sacred Heart Catholic church". She added, " Please sit with me, I am waiting for the 12:00pm mass and you're welcomed to attend if you like". I was hesitant then, I never attended a Catholic Church. I decided to comply and sat down beside her. That is when she spoke:
I will be 90 in August! Wow that is truly a blessing!-(me) Yes, I hope you will live just as long, and I hope you will be just as happy. I really hope so...-(me)
Some people hold the keys to treasures we are yet to unlock!
I attended mass with her and had a glorious time doing so. I just enjoyed being with someone who has experienced things I am yet to find out. Surely, I will attend again a week or two before her birthday.At the end of the service she gave me a butterfly. It is so beautiful--it's a magnet that I can post on my fridge. It is worthy enough to wear as a broach.
On Thursday, I will be meeting with Dennis Bellone again for the film about love! Live your best life your way!
Plug: Check out my newest FB/ colleague friend :Lamech Obwoge.
I recently just canceled my appearance as a guest speaker on a panel televised recording.It was for the Model Walk show.It's for a program documentary set to air this October on Colours TV, provided by the Dish Network, on channel 9407. For those that don't have DISH, please visit www.colourstv.org, to view your state's local channel. I simply wanted to put in more study hours and practice exam time for my MCATS. As much as I love my work here, you just have to learn your limits. I'm averaging about 6 hours a day with studies. It does not mean anything if you're not doing several practice exams. I need to up it from once a week to three practice exams--of course studying 7 days a week.
"Like people say, Work hard or go home!"
My apartment has been piled up high in newspapers from the Star Ledger to my favorite, New York Times. I have been trying to make an effort in reading the papers I purchase. I leave early to the library and come back real late. I know you wonder why do I even bother to keep yesterday's news. Well, I have this idea that I would find the time to read up on it.
"Besides, what's learned from yesterday will help you conquer tomorrow."
Celebrate your week well & this was intended to be short, I'll post Monday-- enjoy it.
The "love" film in Brooklyn & Shot with Fendi,Dior,Versace,Ferrera ..dresses..By photographer Berik
This week I've been in Brooklyn twice for business and pleasure. I say pleasure because I just added a lot of new experiences to my library called, "Life". The last time I was in Brooklyn prior to this week was for a magazine a few years ago. I had the role of interviewing potential models and talent to be featured.
I was selected to take on a project with a well known artist, Dennis Bellone. He had two concepts for this project. The first concept was to recreate Warhol's famous "screen shots" in hopes to pay homage to Andy Warhol.The second part of the project dealt with a documentary filming about love. I know that last time I wrote about how I started a love filled week, after attending a discussion group last Sunday.( To view that entry please click:here )
Below Photos:I was transferring to the G train to Brooklyn after getting off the E. I saw this beautiful art on the walls of the subway station. I got camera phone happy- I guess :).
I met Dennis Bellone walking on the way to his studio. When we arrived at his studio we quickly got to work. He had asked me a series of questions about love and what it all means. I am not going to expand much on that because the project is still going on. I can't wait until it is finally finished. It will be great.
A day after that I received a notice to report to Brooklyn again. This time I was to go to a different side of Brooklyn--Manhattan Beach, to meet with Photographer Berik and his fashion stylist Alex. I was to try on a multitude of dresses from mainly Italian designers. The train ride was longer this time around because I was taking it to the end of the line of downtown Brooklyn. When I left the subway I was greeted with sweet scents that just tempted my belly.I could hear my tummy growling --it wanted fooood. I was hungry,tired, and ready to work with the camera. I also was lost--dead lost-- know one knew how to direct me properly to where I was going. Luckily my phone had a map--thank you G1. When I arrived to my location I found an amazing view ( this meant I got camera phone happy)check it:
I immediately met with the stylist, Alex, he was adorable! He looked me up and down and was like ummmmm 6/8. In my mind I was like I AM A SIZE 4. I just figured he knew best so I trusted him. The clothes fitted well.When I thought I was done trying on one batch of clothing I was only greeted with another! Dresses filled the whole room.. Alex just kept handing me another load. It ranged from Dior, Versace,Fendi, Ferrera and others. I should be getting my test photos out by this upcoming Sunday. I am looking forward in critiquing myself to see where I need to improve. I will post them in my online portfolio section as soon as I get them.
In a few weeks I plan on doing something life changing--something so unexpected and rewarding--I hope. Only time will tell.
Have a great weekend! I will be taking a few practice exams for my MCATS but I will be enjoying it=) So, live your best life.
Sometimes I feel that the only thing that makes sense is art. Growing up I was shy and soft spoken but always remained active in my community. I only started breaking out of my shell or "comfort zone" toward the end of high school. I owe it to art for that. Art is love. Art is poetry.. or is it? Lately, I have been having conversations about what love actually is. I never thought some would actually say that it was an illusion. I'm going to press rewind and take you through my all about love week.
Let me start by saying,"I am really "feeling" myself-- wait that's not right. I am really in love with myself--ok that is better". -Smiles- you will get this later. Last Sunday, I went on a model go-see with a friend to see if I can be the new face for this line of beauty products that are coming out. I love life and most people will say, " Amanda loves trying new things". I even welcome disappointments--that is another entry for a different day. Well, after the go-see I went to this studio in NY with my friend. I wanted to show her where I used to go when I started out modeling and where I used to hold most of my events for my business projects.
Let's just make a long story short. We saw an old friend of hers who was trying to attend a meeting about--love. When I found that out I was like a kid in a candy store. "We JUST have to go-- " truthfully I just enjoy the company of people and wanted to socialize and network.
The meeting was refreshing and brought about a group of different people from various backgrounds/ages/cultures etc. It was one big melting pot of people with one common agenda and that was to solve the age old question-- what is love? & how can we love?.. If I sit here and document the events that occurred that day I would be here forever. However, I will like to say I did learn one thing. Love is the one thing that provides both comfort and pain. Love is not prejudice and holds no discrimination in regards to age.
Love is like an itch. The same itch you got when you were 20 is the same itch you will have when you're 65. Same issues different time-- this is me being positive. Love is a beautiful thing.
I say so because an older woman described a situation( love issue) she was going through with her significant other. Surprisingly after her talk the group all looked upon her in amazement.They were not shocked with the actual story but because they have been through similar situations and were many decades younger.
UNIFICATION-THE GEM PROJECT, INC.THEN AND NOW-my silence is broken.
The first day of Spring could not have arrived sooner! I woke up in a fright when I first saw that it was snowing this morning.Luckily, just as quickly as the snow fell it left and since melted away.The aside flower photo on the left was taken with my phone. I took it a few days ago when I was on my morning run.I am so glad that I can wave my palm to winter, like some horrible ending to a movie that just seemed to drag and mislead all who watched. I proudly hold my cup of fine pure Spring water and say,"CHEERS TO NEW BEGINNINGS". Spring is my favorite season.. It's not too hot nor is it too cold. I can't wait until it does get warmer so I can dust off all my pretty spring/summer dresses.
A few days ago I got too happy when I felt a slight touch of sun. Yes, I was that lady who you walked passed, and may have muttered under your breath, "What is she thinking?". I came out in my denim shorts and leather cowboy boots as if I lived in California and not chilly Jersey in the middle of Winter.
-I did not think I would pull one of those again-
I have been quiet about The Gem Project because it is going through an expansion period and I am trying to run it differently. Several of the events this term has been halted in an effort to have a smooth transition.I have realized that in order to build a strong infrastructure with an organization-you must iron all wrinkles. In due time I plan on expanding and having a new staff aboard to help execute our goals effectively. I also need to observe the tactics I use as a leader and face my flaws. I have a few flaws I am trying to battle. I see The Gem Project thriving and becoming something beautiful and well needed in our community today.
-I MUST ACT SMART IN THE DECISIONS I MAKE-
I am also amending my BY LAWS of the way my organization is governed- and taking the proper avenues in becoming a better leader.
I am flawed. I admit that but I have passion and that is what has driven many of my thoughts into action.
A successful leader faces his/her flaws with their best armor and face!
Let the games begin. I am suited and ready for great results this year.
I remember a speech I gave a while back, about passion and the importance of fulfilling the goals you set before yourself. It was a funny speech, I openly asked the crowd if they recalled as a child what they "wished" to be when they grew up?
I responded for them by saying they would have possibly said, " I want to be a teacher, lawyer,fireman, police officer,engineer,writer,artist, and BATMANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!" . I shouted the last one at the top of my lungs. I made sure the last one was known. I love children because they have what we all had but lose as we get older-innocence. It is this quality that often allowed us as children to dream beyond measure.
When one dreams beyond measure, they're not hindered by the "How, I Can't,NOT, and No". They're driven by desire and imagination. These are the elements which motivate individuals to feverishly paint their ideal beginnings or endings--only later should they contemplate the how.
I have a confession-- I am a big kid at heart. When I am around the right people, I smile to the point where my face looks like its a still art portrait display. A few days ago I swung on an actual swing--in the middle of Central Park. OK OK It was at the edge of Central Park.
I've been traveling a lot these days to New York. It has mostly been for business which for me, always leads to pleasure---self-gratification eg.shopping,running,...etc). I am currently working on two films. I will expand on them tomorrow. I never thought I would do a film --like I always say: IT IS THE YEAR OF SAYING YES YES YES.
PHOTO: The two above photos above were taken while on the train to NYC
I am overwhelmed with mixed emotions today.I've spent time to reflect on various new situations and circumstances in my life.In order to better explain my points in this entry, I feel it is best to begin from the end to the beginning rather from start to finish. The end is always a key to a beginning so why not start with it? After all, the end is never really the end.
I am sitting at a round table with friends at my Alma Mater. We all are dressed in black and have been discussing the ceremony that had just occurred. I come across being real mellow and quiet in disbelief, as we discuss several different topics and having one of them be life. The importance of life and what it all means to us, that was our topic of discussion.
"We all hope that when it is our time to go, we would have made an impact as she has made" "She did so much for our community, school, and her family".
I and many others today at Rutgers University-Newark and beyond had the chance to say their goodbyes to a phenomenal woman named, Nelitha Wilson-Michael (Nell). I got to know Nell at the student life and leadership office at my Alma Mater. She always was there to speak to her students and offer suggestions,advice, and support. Nell worked for nearly two decades at Rutgers and served as a principal secretary and ADA coordinator for students with disabilities. I will always remember her smiles in Robeson and talks about my next event. She had direct contact with all the student leaders of Rutgers who had organizations. Her efforts will never be forgotten and her presence will always be missed.
At the round table we discussed life and what it actually means. This little puzzle has been talked about for centuries. We felt it fitting to discuss it today as we came back from celebrating Nell's life with her family and friends. We came up with a few conclusions and answers.
Expectation: Live your life without the expectation that tomorrow is granted.
Smile: Everyone has issues! Smiling is the first route to happiness. It is also the first thing a person may notice. ' WOW , she is that girl who is always smiling, so happy' . Smiling also brightens another person's day.
Equate:We are all in this equation called Life, subtract the negativity-let's reflect on the good.
Two entities:Lastly, we all view life and death as two seperate things because we don't truly understand what comes after. Perhaps it is one.. we will never understand until we all one day arrive.
SET TIME TO TELL THOSE YOU LOVE, THAT YOU LOVE THEM. NEVER ASSUME THAT THEY KNOW.
I've been feeling so alive these past few days . I am sticking to my exercise routine, studying for my exam, and slowly becoming a real morning person. I had hit up the track today with the typical eight laps, my Rutger's hoodie was slightly drenched from the light rain earlier today. The geese always make it to the track first while I am left dodging their poop while I run. It is funny just a couple of days ago the track looked like this:
I tell my friends these days I have been guilty of loving myself a little too much. After Valentine's day I had a new mentality on how I choose to live my life.I doubt that the fact that it was Valentine's day had any real significance. I just felt it was the time where this butterfly came out of her cocoon. I have always been a woman who most times placed her projects and others before herself. Physically it was apparent.. baggy eyes and all. "Girl, you work so hard.. you look really tired". I hated that.Heck, I probably was packing extra clothes under my lids for the plan to skip town, and go on a well needed vacation. This has been the best I have ever looked and felt in years. I have been celebrating every moment as if it was my birthday.
This year is the year of celebration and happiness by doing what you love. I love helping people, it is evident in everything I do. However, how can I help others when I can't help myself. People always say that charity begins at home right? Well, I have been loving myself a lot more than anyone has in a while. The only person who can object to that is my Momma and she loves me unconditionally. I have promised simple things that I will do daily and monthly. Running early in the morning when some are still fast asleep has been on top of my list for a while.
Running for me is like a high(please don't assume I get high literally). I imagine it to be similar to what a hiker feels when they get on top of a mountain and gaze below-absolutely incredible.
I probably had said this in every entry since then:
It is the year of saying YES YES YES.Don't read about it, DO IT. Don't dream about it, FEEL IT.Don't imagine it, BUILD IT.
"The world is ours.. it's our stage.. we are the actors and actresses of our own destiny. Come on people , let's live"
Au Natural:
I've been going natural in spirit, thought, and hair. I am on twitter and I remember a hairstylist who mentioned that honey was good for your hair. I know it may seem shocking at first but trust me organic products are the best way to go. Cleopatra herself used to bathe in honey and milk because she knew of its positive effect.Honey is a humectant, which means that it holds on to water molecules.It is great for moisture and it has antibacterial and antioxidant properties which is also a plus.
I had the chance to try this on a few skin blemishes and my hair. I give it two thumbs up. My blemishes have faded by 50% since using pure honey on them! I also found that my hair was a lot softer.
Anyway for those that doubted honey... Hey honey...give me some honey!
The New Year is almost here! There is something so refreshing in starting off with a New Year, I think for everyone. We can all claim that a lot of pivotal moments have occurred.
I foresee collegiate and high school chapters being done throughout this great nation in the future. I've placed forms on the website for that. I had a vision that the teachings and practices of The Gem Project as an organization would just ramify out from state to state-- and it will happen. I would be lying if I said I was not 100% sure. I think my dreams into reality, with the assistance of action of course ;). It has never failed me. I have never failed myself. Only others have failed me.
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